Why it's okay to feel stuck, anxious, and unsure

It's okay if you've done heaps of healing work and you keep getting triggered or you can’t get over what hurt you.

It's okay if you're anxious, unsure, or overwhelmed.

It's okay if you're exhausted and you can barely find the energy to get out of bed.

It's okay if you feel lost, wandering a desert with no clear direction.

It's okay if you haven't figured out what you want to do with your precious life.

It's okay if you're struggling to find joy or meaning in things that once made you happy or in anything at all.

It’s okay if you’re not over your grief yet.

It’s okay if you find yourself getting angry (there’s a lot to be angry at in this world.)

It’s okay if you cry easily (this world needs your tears and sensitivity.)

It’s okay if you’re not where you think you should be at, or wish you were at in your life yet.

It’s okay to be scared of the future (there’s so much uncertainty and rapid change.)

It’s okay to be jealous of your friends or loved one’s success.

It’s okay to feel lonely.

It’s okay that there are bumps and difficulties in your relationships.
 
The most loving and healing thing you can do for yourself (and for others) is to meet yourself as you are. To make your current experience okay, without trying to change or fix it.
 
Your experience is your experience—it's what's true and real for you right now. Being against yourself and your life adds to your pain and can keep you stuck in the experience you want to change. Sometimes you can be against yourself in ways that you don't realise thanks to an unconscious internalised nasty critic or abuser.
 
For now, in this moment, take a breath and see if you can give some space for yourself, your feelings and your experience.
Allow yourself to experience what you are experiencing right now without trying to change it. To be where you are and who you are in this moment.
Maybe say a little hello to those difficult feelings or experience and tell that internal nasty critic to back off and give you some space.
 
When you stop fighting against your experience and trying to make it something other than it is, you can take a different approach. Because what your experience really needs is deep compassion, tenderness, care and loving witnessing.
 
From this place of allowing and compassion, organic healing and transformation can begin. It may bring you into deeper contact with pain or discomfort at first, but it will be easier.
 
It can be kind, gentle and loving, not forceful or shaming. You can be kind, gentle and loving towards yourself.
 
Take a moment today to breathe and allow yourself to be as you are.
It’s okay to be tired.
It’s okay to not have all the answers.
It’s okay to be messy.
It’s okay to be a work in progress.
It’s okay.
 
You’re not alone in this.

With love and courage,

Kym xx

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